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Sometimes, when I'm walking down the street, I find myself looking at couples and wondering what they see in each other.

Not in a nasty way, but with real curiosity about how they met, what drew them to each other and what keeps them together. Is he with her because she has big boobs? Is she with him because his childhood resembled hers? Do they wake up each morning and look at one another with the same eyes they used to fall in love?

Two days ago I happened to be in a coffee shop and there was an older couple at the next table, bickering. I forget the exact topic but the gist was identical to a billion other married bickersons: "stop using that tone...you never listen...blah blah blah". For a mad moment, I was tempted to sit in the chair between them and put this question to them both: If the other person dropped dead right now, would you feel relieved or anguished?

Despite the posturing and habitual positioning, I suspect the answer from both of them would have been anguish. It's a shame they chose to invest so much effort in waiting for the other person to be loving, instead of setting the example themselves.